How Do They Feel About Me? Tarot Reading

Want to know how someone feels about you? Draw two cards below. The first shows the other person’s feelings, using the “as feelings” meaning of the card you draw, and the second gives you advice on what to do with that answer.

It works for a crush, a partner, an ex or a friend, and whether you’re wondering how he feels, how she feels or how they feel. It’s free, there’s no sign-up, and nothing you type is stored.

Jump to a section:

• What the two cards mean
• How to read the answer, suit by suit
• Court cards as feelings
• Major Arcana cards as feelings
• When the two cards seem to disagree
• Two worked examples
• A three-card follow-up with your own deck
• Common mistakes
• Questions and answers

What the two cards mean

The reading is deliberately small. One card for them, one card for you. That keeps the answer focused on the question you actually asked, instead of spreading it across ten positions you then have to reconcile.

• How they feel: the other person’s feelings towards you as the cards show them right now. Upright, read the card’s feelings at face value. Reversed, the same feelings are usually blocked, mixed or changing.
• Advice for you: what would help you most, given those feelings. This card is always read upright, because it’s guidance rather than a prediction.

Each card links to its full guide, straight to the as feelings or as advice section, so you can read the longer version and the love meaning too.

The first card isn’t a forecast of what they’ll do. It describes a feeling as it stands today, and feelings don’t always turn into action. That’s why the second card is about you: your next step is the part you control.

How to read the answer

Start with the card’s suit. It tells you what kind of feelings you’re looking at before you read a single keyword.

If the feelings card is…	It usually says	How it tends to show
Cups	Emotional feelings: affection, tenderness, hurt or longing. The most direct suit for this question.	Warm messages, kindness, wanting closeness, or visible sadness when things go wrong.
Wands	Attraction, excitement and chemistry. Strong energy, though not always staying power.	Flirting, invitations, fast replies, and sometimes a hot and cold pattern.
Swords	Thoughts more than feelings: they think about you a lot, or overthink, or there’s tension to talk through.	Long conversations, careful words, second-guessing, or silence while they work it out.
Pentacles	Steady, practical feelings shown through actions, time and commitment rather than words.	Turning up, helping with real problems, making plans, keeping their word.

The suit also tells you where to look for proof. If you draw a Pentacles card and wonder why they never say anything romantic, the card has already answered: this person shows it, they don’t say it. A Swords card for someone quiet may simply mean they’re thinking hard before they speak.

A card from the Major Arcana sits outside the suits. It usually says the connection is significant to them, for better or worse, and the Major Arcana section below covers the clearest ones. Court cards (Pages, Knights, Queens and Kings) often describe how the person expresses what they feel. A Page is tentative and new to it, a Knight acts on it, a Queen feels it deeply and a King keeps it steady. There’s a table of them in the court cards section, and our guide to tarot court cards goes into each one.

When the feelings card is reversed

A reversed card doesn’t automatically mean they don’t care. Most reversals in a feelings reading point to feelings that are there but held back, confused or not yet said out loud.

And some cards read more hopefully reversed. The Four of Cups upright is someone withdrawn; reversed, their interest is waking up. The same goes for the Three of Swords (hurt that’s starting to heal), the Five of Cups, the Nine of Swords, the Seven of Cups and The Moon, where confusion is starting to clear. If you want more on this, see all 78 card meanings, upright and reversed.

The reversals worth taking more seriously are the ones that add something unhealthy to warm feelings. A reversed Emperor can show possessiveness or a need to control, and a reversed Queen of Wands can mean admiration tangled up with jealousy. Those cards aren’t saying “they don’t like you”. They’re saying “look at how the liking is expressed”.

Court cards as feelings

Court cards come up a lot in feelings readings, and people often get stuck on them because they look like portraits. Read them as a style of feeling. The rank tells you how mature or active the feeling is, and the suit tells you what it’s made of. These are the clearest ones, upright:

Card	What it says about their feelings
Page of Cups	Sweet, tender and possibly new feelings. A crush, perhaps a shy one, shown through small gestures.
Page of Wands	Excitement and curiosity. Flirtatious messages and playful energy, though they may not know how serious it is yet.
Knight of Cups	Romantic interest they want to show: smitten, idealistic and eager to impress, sometimes through rose-tinted glasses.
Knight of Wands	Strong attraction and a wish to pursue you. Passionate and immediate, not yet long-term.
Knight of Pentacles	Steady, serious and loyal. Slow to make a move because they want to be sure and do it properly.
Queen of Cups	Deep, tender care. Their feelings may run deeper than they show.
Queen of Swords	Respect and a high value on honesty. Sincere but measured, and they want to be sure before they open up.
King of Pentacles	Loyal, protective and thinking long term. They show it through reliability and practical support.

Can a court card describe you rather than them? Some readers say yes, especially when the card doesn’t match the person at all. In this reading the first position is fixed as their feelings, so read it that way first. If it truly doesn’t fit, it’s fair to ask whether the card is mirroring the energy you bring to the connection. The full list, with reversals, is in court cards as feelings.

Major Arcana cards as feelings

A Major Arcana card in the feelings position rarely describes a passing mood. It points to something that matters to them: a strong attraction, a big question they’re turning over, or a change in how they see you. Here are the Majors with the clearest feelings meanings, upright.

Card	What it says about their feelings
The Lovers	One of the strongest signs of attraction in the deck, on several levels at once. They may also be weighing a decision about you.
The Empress	Deep affection and care, physical and emotional. They want to look after you.
The High Priestess	A deep, perhaps unspoken connection. They’re drawn to you but keeping it private for now.
The Hermit	Thinking deeply about you without showing much. They need time alone to work out what they feel.
The Devil	Strong desire, possibly obsession. The intensity is real, so look closely at how they actually treat you.
The Tower	Sudden, overwhelming emotion. Their view of you may have changed abruptly, for better or worse.
The Star	Hopeful and peaceful around you. You may represent a fresh start for them.
The Moon	Strong feelings they find hard to understand or express. Mixed signals, because the feelings really are mixed.
The Sun	Genuinely happy around you and not trying to hide it.
Judgement	A serious rethink. They may have realised how much you mean to them, or be reconsidering the past.
Death	A deep change in how they feel. The old version of the connection can’t come back, whether feelings are fading or turning into something more serious.

Two of these deserve a second look. Death frightens people, but as feelings it’s about change, and the change can go either way; the rest of your situation usually tells you which. The Devil flatters, because intense desire feels like proof of love. Its own guide is blunt: the intensity may be more about wanting than deep connection. The remaining Majors are covered in tarot cards as feelings.

Cards that answer “how do they feel about me?”

Every card has its own feelings meaning, but they fall into a few broad groups. These are the upright readings:

What the card says	Cards (upright)
Strong, warm feelings	Two of Cups, The Lovers, Ace of Cups, Ten of Cups, The Sun, Queen of Cups, Four of Wands
Attraction and excitement	Ace of Wands, Knight of Wands, Eight of Wands, The Magician, Knight of Cups, The Devil (desire, sometimes obsession)
Serious, long-term interest	Ten of Pentacles, Three of Pentacles, Ace of Pentacles, The Hierophant, King of Pentacles, Two of Wands
Undecided or mixed	Two of Swords, Seven of Cups, The Moon, The Hanged Man, Two of Pentacles, Five of Wands
Caring but guarded	Four of Pentacles, Nine of Wands, The Hermit, The High Priestess, The Chariot, Seven of Swords
Hurt, distance or moving on	Three of Swords, Eight of Cups, Six of Swords, Four of Swords, Four of Cups, Ten of Swords

Two notes. “Distance” cards describe where the person is now, not a verdict on you: the Four of Swords is someone who needs space, which isn’t the same as someone who has gone. And a card in the warm group can still come with a catch. The Nine of Cups is someone happy with you, but reversed it can mean they enjoy the attention more than the relationship.

When the two cards seem to disagree

Plenty of readings don’t land neatly. The feelings card sounds lovely and the advice card says slow down. Or the feelings card is cold and the advice card says reach out. These tensions are usually the most useful part of the reading, because they point at the gap between what you hope and what would actually help.

Warm feelings, cold actions

Say you draw The Sun, but they haven’t replied to a message in a fortnight. Believe the actions. A card can suggest how someone feels when they think of you; it can’t make them pick up the phone, and it doesn’t oblige you to wait. Several cards say this outright. The Seven of Cups tells you to watch their actions over time rather than their promises, and the Seven of Swords says to watch what they do, not just what they say.

A hopeful feelings card with cautious advice

Imagine the Knight of Cups for their feelings (smitten, idealistic, eager to impress) and the Seven of Pentacles as advice: pause, assess and be patient, and judge progress by the right timescale. The advice isn’t cancelling the good news. The Knight’s own card guide says they may see you through rose-tinted glasses and still be getting to know the real you. So enjoy the romance, and let it prove itself over weeks rather than days.

A guarded feelings card with bold advice

Now flip it. The Four of Pentacles describes someone who cares but is cautious with their emotions and finds it hard to open up. The Two of Cups as advice says meet people halfway: reach out, make the first move, or have the conversation that clears the air.

Read together, the guarded person is unlikely to go first, so the reading suggests you might. Note the word “halfway”, though. The Two of Cups also asks you to choose relationships where you’re equals and not to shrink yourself to keep one going. Take one clear step, then see whether they step towards you.

When both cards feel like bad news

Say the Ten of Swords comes up for their feelings: someone who feels hurt, defeated or exhausted by the situation and has nothing left to give right now. Then the Four of Swords arrives as advice: rest before you act, because decisions made from exhaustion are rarely good ones.

That’s a hard pair, but it isn’t a sentence. The feelings card describes now, and its reversed meaning is someone beginning to recover. The advice is about pacing. This is not the week for a big conversation or a dramatic decision, from either of you. Look after yourself first and let things settle before you judge what’s left.

Two worked examples

A friend who might be more

Imagine someone has grown close to a friend, Jo, and wonders whether it’s turning into something more. They draw the Page of Cups for how Jo feels and the Queen of Swords as advice.

The Page of Cups describes sweet, tender and possibly new feelings: a crush, perhaps a shy one. Its card guide adds that the feelings are sincere but the person may not know what to do with them yet, so small gestures are more likely than a big declaration. That fits a friendship with a new warmth in it.

The Queen of Swords then says: speak your truth clearly and kindly, and look at the facts rather than your hopes or fears. Put together, the reading doesn’t say “wait for Jo to make a move”. It says Jo may be too shy to go first, so an honest, gentle conversation could be the kindest next step.

If the Page of Cups had come up reversed, the tone would shift: feelings that are there but changeable, or mixed up with insecurity. The advice would stay the same, but you might go slower.

An ex, a few months on

Now imagine someone whose relationship ended four months ago. They still wonder whether their ex misses them, and they draw the Six of Cups for the ex’s feelings and Death as advice.

The Six of Cups is the card of fond memories. As feelings, it suggests the ex thinks of them warmly and may be reminiscing about their time together. It’s tempting to stop there and hear “they want me back”. But the card describes affection for the past, which isn’t the same as a plan for the future. Its reversed meaning makes the point sharper: feelings tied up with how things used to be, or a sign they’ve moved on.

Death as advice is plain: let it end. Name what is finishing, grieve it if you need to, and make room for what comes next. Read as a pair, the cards allow that the fondness may be real on both sides and still point towards closure. A kind memory can be kept without reopening the relationship.

Tarot doesn’t decide whether they get back together. It offers a question worth sitting with: are you missing the person, or the life you had with them? The will my ex come back tarot reading looks at that more directly.

A three-card follow-up with your own deck

If the two-card reading leaves you with a “but why?”, this layout goes one step further. It isn’t a built-in draw on this page: it’s a manual layout for your own deck. You can also draw three cards on the three-card spread page and read them with these positions instead of past, present and future. Decide that before you draw, not after.

Position	What it asks
1. Their feelings	How do they feel about me right now? Read the card’s feelings meaning, upright or reversed.
2. What holds them back	What stands between those feelings and action? Fear, timing, circumstances or something in their past.
3. What they want	What are they hoping for from this connection, if anything?

1. Shuffle while you hold one clear question about one person.
2. Lay three cards left to right, in the order above.
3. Read card 1 with its feelings meaning. For cards 2 and 3, the general upright or reversed meaning often fits better.
4. Read card 2 against card 1. A warm first card with a heavy second card usually means the feelings are real but stuck.

In the middle position, the suit is a useful shortcut. Swords there often point to fears and overthinking, Pentacles to practical limits such as work, money or time, Cups to an emotional past that isn’t settled, and Wands to independence or restlessness. If a bright card such as The Sun lands there, it may simply mean very little is in the way.

A quick example. Say the three cards are the Queen of Cups, the Nine of Wands and the Ten of Pentacles. The Queen says they care deeply and tenderly, perhaps more than they show. The Nine of Wands in love points to guardedness, old hurts or trust issues, so something from before is keeping their walls up. And the Ten of Pentacles is one of the most committed cards in the deck: long-term partnership, a relationship built to last. Read together: real care, held behind a wall, from someone who wants something serious. The practical takeaway is patience and consistency, not pressure.

For a reading about both of you rather than just them, the relationship spread is the next size up.

Asking about a crush, a partner or an ex

A crush or someone new

Keep the question simple: “How does Sam feel about me right now?” Early feelings are often the Pages and Aces, which describe something that has only just started. Don’t read too much into a single card when you’ve barely met.

A partner

In an established relationship, the useful question is often narrower: “How does my partner feel about us moving in together?” A focused question gets a clearer card. For a fuller picture of both of you, try the love tarot reading or the relationship spread.

An ex

It’s natural to wonder, and the cards can help you think it through. Be honest with yourself about why you’re asking, though. If you’re hoping for a sign to go back, or checking every day, the broken heart spread is likely to help you more, because it looks at your healing rather than their feelings.

A friend or family member

The reading isn’t only for romance. You can ask how a friend feels after an argument, or how a sister feels about a decision you’ve made. Read the romantic language loosely: the Three of Cups, for example, can mean affectionate friendship and enjoying your company rather than deep romantic intensity.

Common mistakes with feelings readings

• Drawing again until you like the card. The second and third draws aren’t a clearer answer. They’re you shopping for one. Keep the first draw and work with it.
• Reading for the same person every day. When checking on someone becomes a daily habit, the cards stop helping and start feeding anxiety. If you notice this, pause the readings for a week and ask a card about yourself instead.
• Treating the card as fact. “The cards say you like me” isn’t an argument, and it puts the other person in an unfair spot. Use the reading to decide what to say, not as evidence.
• Skipping the advice card. People read the feelings card three times and the advice card once. The advice is the part you can act on.
• Reading a reversal as rejection. Most reversed feelings cards show blocked or mixed feelings, not absent ones. See the reversed cards section.
• Confusing feelings with the future. A warm card now isn’t a promise of a relationship later, and a cool card now isn’t the end. The guide to asking the right questions helps you frame what you actually want to know.

What this reading can’t tell you

Tarot can’t read another person’s mind. What it does well is give you a picture to reflect on: a possible reading of the situation, and a nudge about your own next step. Treat the feelings card as a question to check against what the person actually says and does.

Asking the same question again and again usually leads to confusion, because you’ll keep drawing until you get the card you want. Draw once, sit with it, and come back when something has changed. If a relationship is making you feel unsafe or controlled, talk to someone you trust or a local support service rather than the cards.

More free love readings

• Love tarot reading: three cards for you, them and the relationship.
• Yes or no tarot: one card for a direct question, such as “Will they message me?”
• Two options spread: if you’re choosing between two people or two paths.
• Self-love tarot spread: turn the question round and ask how you feel about yourself.
• Tarot card combinations for love: how pairs of cards change each other’s meaning.
• Love tarot card meanings: what all 78 cards mean in love, upright and reversed.
• Tarot cards as feelings: what every card says about how someone feels, upright and reversed.
• Tarot cards that mean someone is thinking of you: the cards readers most often take as a sign of someone’s attention, and what each one really says.
• All free tarot readings, from the card of the day to the tarot cross.

Feelings tarot reading: questions and answers