Want to know how someone feels about you? Draw two cards below. The first shows the other person’s feelings, using the “as feelings” meaning of the card you draw, and the second gives you advice on what to do with that answer.
It works for a crush, a partner, an ex or a friend, and whether you’re wondering how he feels, how she feels or how they feel. It’s free, there’s no sign-up, and nothing you type is stored.
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What the two cards mean
- How they feel: the other person’s feelings towards you as the cards show them right now. Upright, read the card’s feelings at face value. Reversed, the same feelings are usually blocked, mixed or changing.
- Advice for you: what would help you most, given those feelings. This card is always read upright, because it’s guidance rather than a prediction.
Each card links to its full guide, straight to the as feelings or as advice section, so you can read the longer version and the love meaning too.
How to read the answer
Start with the card’s suit. It tells you what kind of feelings you’re looking at before you read a single keyword.
| If the feelings card is… | It usually says |
|---|---|
| Cups | Emotional feelings: affection, tenderness, hurt or longing. The most direct suit for this question. |
| Wands | Attraction, excitement and chemistry. Strong energy, though not always staying power. |
| Swords | Thoughts more than feelings: they think about you a lot, or overthink, or there’s tension to talk through. |
| Pentacles | Steady, practical feelings shown through actions, time and commitment rather than words. |
| Major Arcana | Something significant. The connection matters to them, for better or worse. |
Court cards (Pages, Knights, Queens and Kings) often describe how the person expresses what they feel. A Page is tentative and new to it, a Knight acts on it, a Queen feels it deeply and a King keeps it steady. Our guide to tarot court cards goes into each one.
When the feelings card is reversed
A reversed card doesn’t automatically mean they don’t care. Most reversals in a feelings reading point to feelings that are there but held back, confused or not yet said out loud.
And some cards read more hopefully reversed. The Four of Cups upright is someone withdrawn; reversed, their interest is waking up. The same goes for the Three of Swords (hurt that’s starting to heal), the Five of Cups, the Nine of Swords, the Seven of Cups and The Moon, where confusion is starting to clear. If you want more on this, see all 78 card meanings, upright and reversed.
Cards that answer “how do they feel about me?”
Every card has its own feelings meaning, but they fall into a few broad groups. These are the upright readings:
| What the card says | Cards (upright) |
|---|---|
| Strong, warm feelings | Two of Cups, The Lovers, Ace of Cups, Ten of Cups, The Sun, Queen of Cups, Four of Wands |
| Attraction and excitement | Ace of Wands, Knight of Wands, Eight of Wands, The Magician, Knight of Cups, The Devil (desire, sometimes obsession) |
| Serious, long-term interest | Ten of Pentacles, Three of Pentacles, Ace of Pentacles, The Hierophant, King of Pentacles, Two of Wands |
| Undecided or mixed | Two of Swords, Seven of Cups, The Moon, The Hanged Man, Two of Pentacles, Five of Wands |
| Caring but guarded | Four of Pentacles, Nine of Wands, The Hermit, The High Priestess, The Chariot, Seven of Swords |
| Hurt, distance or moving on | Three of Swords, Eight of Cups, Six of Swords, Four of Swords, Four of Cups, Ten of Swords |
Two notes. “Distance” cards describe where the person is now, not a verdict on you: the Four of Swords is someone who needs space, which isn’t the same as someone who has gone. And a card in the warm group can still come with a catch. The Nine of Cups is someone happy with you, but reversed it can mean they enjoy the attention more than the relationship.
A worked example
Imagine someone has grown close to a friend, Jo, and wonders whether it’s turning into something more. They draw the Page of Cups for how Jo feels and the Queen of Swords as advice.
The Page of Cups describes sweet, tender and possibly new feelings: a crush, perhaps a shy one. Its card guide adds that the feelings are sincere but the person may not know what to do with them yet, so small gestures are more likely than a big declaration. That fits a friendship with a new warmth in it.
The Queen of Swords then says: speak your truth clearly and kindly, and look at the facts rather than your hopes or fears. Put together, the reading doesn’t say “wait for Jo to make a move”. It says Jo may be too shy to go first, so an honest, gentle conversation could be the kindest next step.
If the Page of Cups had come up reversed, the tone would shift: feelings that are there but changeable, or mixed up with insecurity. The advice would stay the same, but you might go slower.
Asking about a crush, a partner or an ex
A crush or someone new
Keep the question simple: “How does Sam feel about me right now?” Early feelings are often the Pages and Aces, which describe something that has only just started. Don’t read too much into a single card when you’ve barely met.
A partner
In an established relationship, the useful question is often narrower: “How does my partner feel about us moving in together?” A focused question gets a clearer card. For a fuller picture of both of you, try the love tarot reading or the relationship spread.
An ex
It’s natural to wonder, and the cards can help you think it through. Be honest with yourself about why you’re asking, though. If you’re hoping for a sign to go back, or checking every day, the broken heart spread is likely to help you more, because it looks at your healing rather than their feelings.
What this reading can’t tell you
Tarot can’t read another person’s mind. What it does well is give you a picture to reflect on: a possible reading of the situation, and a nudge about your own next step. Treat the feelings card as a question to check against what the person actually says and does.
Asking the same question again and again usually leads to confusion, because you’ll keep drawing until you get the card you want. Draw once, sit with it, and come back when something has changed. If a relationship is making you feel unsafe or controlled, talk to someone you trust or a local support service rather than the cards.
More free love readings
- Love tarot reading: three cards for you, them and the relationship.
- Yes or no tarot: one card for a direct question, such as “Will they message me?”
- Two options spread: if you’re choosing between two people or two paths.
- Tarot card combinations for love: how pairs of cards change each other’s meaning.
- Love tarot card meanings: what all 78 cards mean in love, upright and reversed.
- All free tarot readings, from the card of the day to the tarot cross.
Feelings tarot reading: questions and answers
Is this “how does he feel about me” tarot reading free?
Yes. It’s free, with no sign-up, and it works the same whether you’re asking about a man, a woman or anyone else. Your question stays in your browser.
Can tarot really tell how someone feels about me?
Not with certainty. The cards offer a reading of the situation to reflect on, not a view inside someone’s head. The most reliable answer still comes from the person, so use the reading to decide what to ask them or how to act.
What does a reversed card mean in a feelings reading?
Usually that the feelings are held back, mixed or changing, not that they’re absent. A few cards, such as the Four of Cups and the Three of Swords, are actually more hopeful reversed.
Why is the advice card never reversed?
It answers “what should I do?”, so it’s read as guidance. Each card’s advice meaning is written for the upright card, and a reversed advice card would only blur it.
How often can I ask how someone feels?
As often as you like, but one reading per situation is more useful than ten. Come back when something has actually changed, such as a conversation, a date or some time apart.